Fabian E. Freidhof

fabian freidhof
Fabian E. Friedhof, age 86, of Elma, IA, died on Wednesday, July 25, 2012 at Regional Health Services in Cresco, IA. Fabian “Fay” Freidhof was born on July 21, 1926 to Edward and Helena (Diederich) Freidhof on the family farm near Alta Vista, IA. Fay attended and graduated from St. William’s Catholic School in Alta Vista. He worked as a farm hand near Roseville, IA for 3 years. He was united in marriage to Berenice Nibaur on October 8, 1946 at Our Lady of Lourdes Church in Lourdes. Fay and Berenice farmed near Lourdes. In 1962 Fay became a carpenter and also continued to farm. He retired from farming in the early 1980’s and continued to work as a carpenter until he was 82 years of age. Fay enjoyed carpentry, fishing, dancing, playing cards, gardening, traveling and feeding and watching birds. He was a member of Our lady of Lourdes Catholic Church, the Catholic Order of Foresters, Knights of Columbus to which he was a fourth degree Knight. Fay is survived by his loving wife, Berenice of Elma; his children, Norb (Roxanne) Freidhof of Assaria, KS, Alan (Norma) Freidhof of West Union and Colleen(Mike) Heying of Elma; his grandchildren, Matt (Amy) Freidhof, Chris (Kara) Freidhof, Dan (Teresa) Freidhof, Heather (Blake) Gamm, Malissa Freidhof, Josh Heying, Annette (Arlen) Kriener and Scott (Kelley) Mikesh; 18 great-grandchildren; his brothers, Adrian (Helen) Freidhof of New Hampton, Cyrus (Jeanne) Freidhof of Alta Vista, Robert (Lorraine) Freidhof of Cresco; one brother-in-law, Roger (Marilee) Nibaur of Elma and numerous nieces and nephews. He was preceded in death by his parents; one brother, Jerome and his sisters, Edith and Gertrude. Cemetery: Burial will be in Our Lady of Lourdes Cemetery at Lourdes with Matthew Freidhof, Chris Freidhof, Daniel Freidhof, Heather Gamm, Malissa Freidhof and Joshua Heying serving as casket bearers. Memorials may be directed to the family. Visitation will be from 4:00-8:00pm on Sunday, July 29, 2012 at Conway-Markham Funeral Chapel in Elma, IA with a 7:30pm scriptural wake service. Visitation will continue at the church one hour prior to the funeral mass on Monday, July 30, 2012. Mass of Christian Burial will be 10:30am, Monday, July 30, 2012 at Our Lady of Lourdes Church in Lourdes, Iowa with Father Steven Garner as celebrant.

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  1. Bernice, Norb, Alan, Colleen & families, We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

  2. I am so sorry to hear about Fay. He’s had such a rough time lately. Well now he’s fishing, playing card and dancing with everyone else up there. I can still hear him yelling, “Hey Tweetie Bird” and whistling. He knew how to have a good time and laugh. I wish I was there to give you all hugs. My thought and prayers are with you all. He had a great life and is in a wonderful place. You have great memories. Again, my deepest sympathy. Love Bev

  3. Al and Norma: So sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Cherish the memories!

  4. Bernice and family. So sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

  5. Bernice, Al, Colleen, Norb, you have my deep sympathies on the death of Fay. I remember him giving my sister a bad time at Bingo in New Hampton! He always had a smile for everyone. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  6. Bernice,Norb,Alan,Colleen and families I am so sorry for your loss. He will always be remembered for always being there to help you out with everthing.Thanks for all the memeries you give me Fay. You wil be missed by all your friends in Loureds. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Connie

  7. Colleen and the Freidhof Family we are so sorry for your loss. You have our deepest sympathy and are in our thoughts and prayers at this time.
    Duane and Marlys Hackman

  8. Dear Berenice, Norb, Alan, Colleen and all,
    I know there is a grand reunion in heaven right now and Fay is still smiling and his laughter I will continue to hear. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. There are so many wonderful memories to hold dear in your heart. My sincere sympathies and prayers for you all.

  9. I am so sorry for your loss. If they were to write a history book on Lourdes Iowa, Fay would be on every page. Most all activities over the years Fay had a hand in organizing, working and playing a big part in its success. You will be missed-but not forgotten.
    Love and strength to you all.
    Mike Fitzgerald
    Sherman Texas

  10. I am so sorry that we have all lost such a wonderful man. He has been such a big part of our family for a very long time. He was there almost immediately after Dad got hurt and continued to be so supportive through all that time. They shared so many memories and had fun at whatever they did. Our love and condolences to you all as it is a sad day in Lourdes to lose Faye Friedhof.

  11. I was so sorry to hear about Fay’s passing. My thoughts & prayers go out to the family. He will be missed.

  12. I’m very sorry to hear of Fabian’s passing. He was a man that no one will ever forget. May his memories live forever in your hearts and minds. My sympathies to all of you at this time.

  13. Our deepest sympathy to all of Fay’s family. Memories of the Freidhofs go back many years. Marlys(Zweibohmer) & John Recker in Roswell, GA

  14. Bernice, Colleen, Allan and Norb, I was blessed to be able to have had Fay embrace my life, he was a very special person. I will always cherish the fond memories of him I hold in my heart. Love you all Nancy

  15. Dear Freidhof family…our condolences to all of you. Fay was a staple of our growing up years in Elma. Our prayers are with you!

    Ann and Pat Loftus (Jim Gansen family)

  16. Fay had a great sense of humor and will be greatly missed at bingo this year and in the future. My sympathies go out to you and your family in this time of sorrow.

  17. i am going to miss fay he was a graet guy and father i had nice vist with him in june 1o 2012 he was feeding the chicks out back he was doing something he liked he gave my frist job.he is in a better place love timthy+leona freidhof

  18. Our thought and prayers are with all of you. What a full wonderful life he lived and enjoyed everyone around him. He will be thought of fondly forever.

  19. Please accept our sincere condolences for the loss of your loved one. This is one of the most difficult things we must face in our life. May it comfort you to know that others are deeply touched by your loss. God assures us at Psalms 34:18 that he is near to those broken in heart and those crushed in spirit he saves. Jesus also promises that we will be able to see our loved ones again. Jesus own words found at John 5:28,29 tells us there will be a resurrection. What a wonderful hope! God says that soon on the earth there will be no more pain, suffering and especially death at Revelation 21:3-5 We anxiously await the day when we will no longer lose those we love. May these bible thoughts bring you comfort at this most difficult time.

  20. My sympathy to all of the Fay Freidhof family. I will certainly miss seeing him at church on my next trip to Elma and also at the family reunions. He left his family a great legacy of service. His shoes will be hard to fill by anyone coming after him. May he enjoy his eternal reward. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you.
    Sr. Marge Friedhoff, RSM

  21. To all immediate family and Siblings..I was so sorry to hear of Fays passing. He was such a good friend, always joking. We will miss him at bingo. I know youl all will miss him, too, but we will be with him in Heaven when the time comes.

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