Anthony "Tony" Whitinger

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Anthony "Tony" Whitinger, age 59, of Tucson, AZ formerly of Elma, IA passed away on Friday, June 5, 2020 in Tucson. A Memorial Mass of Christian Burial has been planned for 11:00 on Saturday, June 27, 2020 AM at Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church in Lourdes with Father Jerry Kopacek celebrating. Burial will be at Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Cemetery following the mass. There will be a one hour visitation prior to the funeral mass at the church on Saturday. Online condolence may be left at Memorials may be directed to an animal rescue of your choice. Tony was born August 11, 1960, the son of Jack and Millie (Prochaska) Whitinger. He attended and graduated from Crestwood High School. After completing his education, Tony moved to Minneapolis to Brown College, completing his degree in Computer Science. He went on to work for IBM in Rochester, MN as an IT Specialist until his retirement several years later. He then worked various positions for Olmstead County, and Wal-Mart Corporation. While living in Rochester, Tony met his life partner, Matt Day. In 2015, Tony and Matt made the move to Tucson, AZ to enjoy a warmer climate after a serious car accident made the cold MN winters difficult for Tony to endure. Tony loved animals, especially his Shih-Tzu dogs. He supported animal rescues and was known for helping the homeless. Those left to cherish his memories are his mother, Millie of Elma, IA; his partner, Matt Day of Tucson, AZ; his sister, Tammy (Lee) Cochran of Newton, IA; his niece and nephew, Shelbey Cochran of Newton and Jesse Cochran of Iowa City, IA; and numerous aunts, uncles and extended family members. He was preceded in death by his father, Jack Whitinger on October, 29, 2019.

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  1. Our sincere thoughts and prayers are with Millie and all her family. I have fond memories with Tony hanging out at your place behind the Alibi when we were kids.

  2. Prayers for Tony and his family. Memories of our Prom in 1978! Peaceful thoughts for you my friend!

  3. Tony had such a brilliant, welcoming smile and attitude…loved to listen to him talk when we were growing up…

  4. Tony where do i start? To soon but never forgotten. You were one of our best neighbor’s who turned into one of our best friends. You had a heart of gold to everyone you knew. We were so blessed to have you in our lives! You always had a smile no matter what! Pur bbqs hottub and pool days are going to be greatly missed. You were so kind and loving and were always their for us! You always called and made sure we were ok and always tried helping us no matter the situation. Tony we have so many stories and memories within the 3 years we’ve known you that i could write a chapter book. But most of all the girls are so sad and heart broken that you are gone! Whenever they come over they ask where is tony? we want to see tony! is tony coming swimming with us? can we go see tony? We all had to explain Tony went to visit their grandma up in heaven. They miss you so much tony, we all do! Tony one last thing! You went out of your way to buy me and Destiny a fishing license as we couldn’t afford one at the time and you and Matt wanted us to go fishing with you guys so bad! Unfortunately we didnt make that trip yet! But we will fish down here in memory of you and i hope you catch the biggest ones in heaven! Our trip is just postpond because i promise you buddy when we meet again the first thing we are doing is going on that trip! We give our condolences to the family and friends. We love you tony. P.s. i will always keep my redneck doorbell you made us!

  5. Heartbroken. Tony was a big part of my younger years from getting engaged in 5th grade through graduation from high school. Photo is Tony, Karla Gardner, Larry Zeimetz, & myself. Were together so much for many years.

  6. I was a classmate of Tony’s. Everyone loved Tony. He was a friend to everyone and genuinely cared about everyone. Even though we didn’t keep in touch, I thought about him often. I had so hoped he would be at our last class reunion so we could catch up. He will be deeply missed!

  7. My heart is heavy. I just talked to you Tony and you were that same jokester making fun of yourself as always. You even joked that you were going to be really mad if you got Covid after surviving everything else! You were there for me at some difficult times in my life. You are free now to play with Sophie ,Tucker and Fritz with your dad by your side. Love you always my friend.

  8. Millie & family, Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. You have our deepest sympathy for your loss.

  9. Millie, Tammy, Matt, and families, I am so sorry we cannot attend the service as we are out of town–I was glad and lucky to see him at Jacks funeral and coaxed a smile. Yes I remember Tony when I stayed with Tammy back in the day, shaking his head and commenting on our “activities”. ๐Ÿ™‚ He had a great dry sense of humor that I loved! I know the last years were rough after the accident, hope you all find peace that Tony has now been relieved of earthly pains and will be watching you all from above….Take care all!

  10. I was shocked and saddened to hear of Tonyโ€™s untimely passing. I worked with Tony many years ago at IBM and enjoyed working with him. He and I also participated the early fundraisers at Paws and Claws here in Rochester in the โ€˜80โ€™s. He was a kind man. โ€” Stacy (Lewis) Haugen

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